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Virginia Arlene (Bengtson) Lilly

1924 - 2021


MENTOR - Virginia Arlene Lilly passed away on March 21, 2021 at her home surrounded with love by her family. She was born in Smolan, Kansas on September 14, 1924. Her parents were Gustaf and Augusta (Ohman) Bengtson. She was confirmed into the Salemsborg Lutheran Church, and after her marriage transferred church membership to the Mentor United Methodist Church.

She married Kendall Lilly on August 25, 1946. They made their home in Mentor, Kansas, where they lived the rest of their lives. To this union were born 3 children: Richard of Overland Park, Ks; Janet Lilly of Salina, Ks. and Roger of Austin, TX.

Virginia was a homemaker and loved to be in her kitchen cooking for the family. She really enjoyed baking and was famous in the Lilly family for her chocolate brownies. She was always asked to make them for every family gathering.

Over the years she was a faithful volunteer worker at White Cross Nursing Home, playing her autoharp and singing for the residents. She did craft projects with them and just loved visiting with all of them. When that nursing home closed, she started visiting various nursing homes in Salina, bringing them homemade treats and having a “social hour” with the residents and staff. When physically able she also loved to work in her yard with all of her beautiful flowers.

For much of her adult life she was a Sunday School teacher, an active member of the United Methodist Women and sang in the church choir. Her church and church family meant everything to her. Virginia loved her children dearly but her greatest joy was becoming a Grandmother and Great Grandmother. She doted on all of them as often as she could.

She was preceded in death by her parents; brothers Axel and Raymond Bengtson, infant brother Eric; sisters Irene McCormick, Evelyn Reed, Ruby Fulton and Grace Johnson.

She is survived by a brother, Lawrence, of Wichita, Kansas; her children, Richard (Mary Jane), Janet Lilly and Roger (Sharmyn). She is also survived by grandchildren: Ryan (Danielle) Carlin of Timberlake, NC; Kendra Carlin of Smolan, Ks.; Sara (Brian) Falter of Olathe, Ks; Jason (Kelli) Lilly of Olathe, Ks,; Aaron (Christine) Lilly of Lenexa, Ks.; and great grandchildren, Avery and Beckett Lilly of Olathe; Harper and Olivia Lilly of Lenexa.

Memorials are suggested to the Mentor United Methodist Church, 616 E. Mentor Road, Mentor, KS. 67416  The family will have a private burial at a later date.


Mentor United Methodist Church
616 E Mentor Rd, Mentor KS 67416
Tel: 1-785-667-4081

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April 3, 2021 11:56 PM

Hi my name is CliffCVOGAN The VOGAN farm Right in Mentor Kansas Every time I go horseback riding - Virginia Arlene Lilly come visit with me always always had a very nice visit with each other one one thing I enjoy the most how beautiful their backyard look” so fly the Angels Please tell someone Hi for me you get to Heaven Tell Mindy hi for me

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Randy Williams

March 26, 2021 10:30 AM

From The late 80's and for 20 years afterward Virginia and Kendall Lilly hosted at their home in Mentor about five of us bird hunters from Austin, Texas. Her son Roger was our link to Kansas. Every year our trip was like a visit into a Norman Rockwell painting. Virginia would rise earlier than us scruffy yahoos, and have a breakfast fit for a king ready and waiting when we arose. She was always smiling and buzzing around to make sure we all had what we needed. We invaded their space for a three day weekend each year, and were treated like royalty. Never for one second did she make us feel that we were an inconvenience...which I'm sure we certainly were. When we came back from our day she either treated us at the table again, or we all jumped in the car and went to the Brookfield Inn for more Kansas family fun. I became an adopted member to the Kansas family and she was my Kansas mom. She was one of the finest people I have ever known.

Roger Douglas

March 26, 2021 12:07 AM

Virginia (and Kendall) were long time friends of mom & dad. They often ate "early" dinner at Mars in Salina and were often the only customers at the time. At least that is what mom & dad used to say. They laughed, reminisced, and always were there for one another. I'm sure they have all met up again in heaven for an early dinner. Thinking of Richard, Janet Sue, and Roger as well as the entire Lilly family. My condolences and sympathy. 

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